A year ago, I hired a professional dating coach for busy men, to help me overcome a major challenge in my life: How to improve my dating life. ❤️
Or to be more precise: How to create one from scratch. 😬
We decided to skip dating apps and nightlife, and focus on daygame: Meeting women during daytime, without any mind-altering substances, alcohol, etc. Natural.
So I went out and talked to over 1000 women in 10 different countries this year (2023).
It was a major breakthrough for me in terms of mindset and breaking limiting beliefs.
Now I'm asking myself: Has cold approach helped me create the dating life that I wanted, a year after?
The short answer is: No.
The long answer is: Yes, but not the way I expected.
Meeting strangers has made my days so much more spontaneous and adventurous.
I often get myself into interesting conversations with random people (men and women).
I make friends and business connections in expected places.
I express myself authentically and more naturally.
I’m being direct and expressing my needs shamelessly.
I got rid of my neediness.
I have the social freedom to interact with almost anyone.
(although sometimes I do need a drink before).
I created my own unique style and persona.
I made emotional, romantic, and sexual connections with amazing women last year.
I don’t feel the need to go out to noisy bars and clubs - or to any environment I don’t like.
I live in abundance, and I feel like a confident man.
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But despite all that, I didn’t get into a nurturing relationship.
I was moving around too quickly to form one.
I was neglecting other important aspects of myself (finance, business, wellness).
I was focusing my energy on the wrong channels.
Most importantly: I was meeting women in the wrong context, or with no context or common ground to start from.
My lifestyle wasn’t suitable for anything more than a casual relationship.
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I started asking myself some questions:
What if I stay in one place for longer and focus on fewer people?
What if I’ll attend classes, workshops, and activities both me and other women like?
Latin dance, yoga, mindfulness, wine tasting, tantric fest, and other conscious activities.
What if I surround myself with awesome feminine energy and friends - instead of searching for it?
That’s right: Romantic relationships, hobbies, passions, and lifestyles are all interconnected somehow.
That’s why many friends of mine had “stumbled” into healthy, stable relationships once they moved to the right place, started the right business, or gave up an unhealthy habit.
It’s not a coincidence. One breakthrough usually leads to another.
And I think mine is just around the corner.
I think I’m ready for the next step of my romantic evolution.
